“So blessed are we, the changed.” — Kate Bowler
I’ve experienced change in so many ways this year. If I’m not wrong, it’s the year I’ve changed the most — as an adult. (I’d like to think the age I turned this year is a factor🤣) I’ll spare you (almost) all the details.
I was talking to a friend the other time and he said something and I told him, “People change, so I was giving you the benefit of the doubt. Plus, anything can happen.” After a couple of back and forth, he said, “You have changed, Dorcas. This is not how you think about stuff😂 What did life show you?”
My response:
“I think the past 2 years showed me that. That people do change. And things will not always be the same.”
I will not mince words when I say this anywhere. Because really, people do change. I have seen it, experienced it, and read about it.
I don’t think change happens in a vacuum. Change is usually triggered by something or someone.
Change can take any shape or form. It can be good or bad.
As I said, I have experienced many changes this year. Some occurred because of my lifestyle and routine. Others are very intentional. For one, I’m learning to get better at saying No when I don’t have the capacity to handle something. It hasn’t been easy. Sometimes I don’t say No. I overthink the situation and try to find reasons to do it, when I clearly know I can’t. It’s a bad habit, which I’m trying to change for good. (I’ll share my progress in some years to come)
For other areas of change I’m trying to navigate, I think most of them stem from people’s actions and inactions toward me. It made me realise how much people’s actions (or a lack of it) affect us. Sometimes the impact is immediate. Other times, it happens over time.
I don’t have all the answers about change yet, I may never do.
But what I do know is this:
People change.
It’s okay to change — for good. And if you find yourself changing for bad reasons, you could always turnaround. It’s not that easy, but you got this 🫂
I’ll leave you with Kate Bowler’s a blessing for when you’re different now.
So blessed are we, the changed.
All my love,
D.
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